You can read Wilentz's response here. And no, it's not 100 years old: https://www.opera-historica.com/pdfs/oph/2021/01/05.pdf

Since you're concerned with patriarchy and because she's also a damned fine historian (I especially recommend her book on the Free State of Jones), you can read Victoria Byrne's criticism here: https://www.opera-historica.com/pdfs/oph/2021/01/05.pdf

I'm glad we agree that you don't have to read everything that gets bad reviews, and I also wish you peace, love, and soul.